Please don’t send me hate because of this post – I am not perfect, I admit it and I want to learn to be a more accepting, open minded human in the world.
On the flip side, please do send me educational responses. Constructive feedback is never a bad thing 🙂
I only recently learned about the phenomena that is “leftie shame”. In my context, it has nothing to do with being left handed…or masturbating with your left hand. Urban dictionary doesn’t know everything.
I’m talking about when people who generally consider themselves left wing or “small L liberal” have an uncharacteristic bias against an issue be it political, social, fiscal etc.
It doesn’t often come up because, for obvious reasons, who would want to consider themselves a cool, calm and collected lefty and then be like “but I just don’t get why I should have to pick up the tab for dole bludgers”. It’s not okay and we know it.
This brings me to admit my lefty shame. Don’t hate me but do educate me. Come one, come all and explain the reason for being…
I’m going to be really honest now but before I get into the nitty gritty, please know, this is genuinely shameful for me! You don’t need to tell me I am a douchebag – I already know it! I hate that I can’t get my head around this. But I want to.
So, I feel myself thinking all the things that someone else might think about my homosexuality. Thoughts, I am aware are the worst, thoughts like; “this is a choice, you weren’t born like this” and “what are you contributing to the world?” and “you’re just attention seeking” and “please don’t make me have to think so hard” and “is this really important?”
The last one is probably the most ridiculous because even I think this is important. To a point. I am totally down with destroying gender norms. I don’t think there should be a “boy’s” section and a “girl’s” section in toy stores, I think “boys” should be able to wear make up and “girls” should be able to play football, I don’t think that we should refer to “men’s work and “women’s work” around the house. But I just can’t push my mind over the line of actually forgetting gender all together. When I say that boys should be able to play with dolls, I understand that I am still assigning a gender to the child and, as far as I understand, that’s not what being non-binary is about.
So what am I missing?
I have other questions if anyone wants to help me out…I realise the answers might be different for individuals but tell me what you think!
Is it a choice to be gender queer?
Is it always a statement or is there a personal desire not to feel labelled any given gender?
Is there an end point? Like, would you like to see the whole world as non-binary or do you see an ideal outcome to have 3 genders rather than just 2? Or something else?
How is being gender queer different from being intersex?
Is it offensive to be called “he” or “she” as opposed to “they” or “them” or is this just a preference?
Help me! I don’t want to be like this!